How To Escape The Drama

How you see yourself largely determines the way you think and behave, so if you perceive yourself as a victim you will think and act like one. That may look like defensiveness, and lacking agency or a sense of control.


The psychiatrist Stephen Karpman came up with a model called the Dreaded Drama Triangle back in '61 and many have expanded on it since.


It's a way of gaining awareness of the role you identify with in relation to others. The three roles he describes are Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer.


A way of escaping that drama is through another model from David Emerald called The Empowerment Dynamic (TED). It offers alternative roles, namely, Creator, Challenger, Coach.


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